Thursday, March 10, 2011

GMS- What is it?

No; the title of this post is not a typo. What is GMS? I will give you 3 guesses. (1.....2.....3.......) okay it is Guilty Mom Syndrome.

definition: the name created for the irrational guilt moms (at least this mom!) feel all to frequently! ( I googled "guilty mom syndrome" and got 75,000 hits!)

Every day I wake up with the best intentions. Today, I will play with my kids; they will each get an equal amount of my undivided attention. I will teach them, laugh with them, be patient with them and love them like crazy. Then my kids wake up. We go through the grind of what is known as every day life. and dont get me wrong, we enjoy eachother and make memories and laugh and love and play; but somedays we do good just to survive:) Then as my babies are fast asleep the guilt/doubt/second guessing comes quietly creeping in. No; it hits me like a ton of bricks.

"You didnt spend enough quality time with Charlie"
"Caden didnt learn anything at all"
"You were way too impatient, checked your email too much, didn't make the right choice when it came to disciplining, __________________ , and on and on and on and on....

It has gotten much worse with 2 kids. the guilt. the "how can you say you want more kids when you cannot even handle the 2 you have?" Where does this guilt come from? I honestly believe that it is nothing more than Satan coming and attacking me where I am weak. where it will hurt the most. So how do I combat it? I pray. hard and often. I constantly remind myself of biblical "truths," I call my (best) friends and cry to them and unload on them. thank.God.for.friends. I call my mom.

If you are suffering from GMS; there is just one thing you can do. Keep loving your babies. Love them hard. And on days when it is really bad; pick them up snuggle them, hug them, kiss them, pray for them and just be with them. because at the end of the day; all that matters is that our children know they are loved.


  1. You know I am right there with you - heck, I'm experiencing guilt about stuff that hasn't even happened yet! You spend so much time loving on Caden and Charlie and there is no doubt that you do an excellent job as a mommy. You are right, Satan wants to attack where we care the most. So we must pray, pray, pray. And then call our girlfriends:).

  2. oh gosh, girl. You know my feelings on this subject. Guilt can be crippling!!!! You are an AWESOME mommy and no doubt caden and char relish in their time with you. Afterall, remember what the Stover boys said - "aunt katie's is the most fun ever." :-)

  3. Wow, great post, Katie! I'm right there with ya and I only have one... I agree, you are an awesome Mommy, that is so evident in the faces of those two boys!