Monday, May 11, 2009

Confessions of a Guilty Mom

Today I did something I rarely do. I dropped Caden off at a friends for absolutely no reason. Now I have left him plenty of times: at school on Tuesday and Thursdays, to go on dates, to go to basketball games, etc. but today was different. Today, I had no date with Chris, no game, no nothing...I just left him and had some "me" time. I ran errands, straightened the house, did some laundry and exercised...all without Caden. Maybe it has to do with the fact the because of my battle with post-partum depression I was not the one gettin up all through the night with him or taking care of him for the first month of his life but I think sometimes I feel I have to make up for that first month for the rest of his life. So, this got me thinking what other "guilty mom" things do I do and am I alone out there? After posting this will I lose my "good mommy" status among my other mom friends? It's a risk I am willing to take so here we go:

-I am not the one that always wakes up with him in the morning/in the middle of the night if need be, sometimes Chris does

-Sometimes I let Caden swing, and then leave the room to go do something

-If he wakes up in the middle of the night and I am just out of energy I make him a bottle and feed him back to sleep

-Sometimes when he is napping and there is laundry to do and a house to clean and dinner to cook I pretend like I have nothing to do and I watch TV

-I don't always burp him when he is finished drinking

-I try so hard (and usually succeed) at reading to him at least 20 minutes a day but every once in a while we miss a day

-I have yet to put sunscreen on Caden when we go outside

-There are more days then not where I dont put pants or socks on Caden

the list could continue but I feel I have incriminated myself enough today!


  1. First of all, your blog hates me! I tried to post on this yesterday and it wouldn't let me!
    Second of all, you are an awesome, I repeat, AWESOME mom, Katie!!! I'm sure most moms do these things and I'm sure I will too when Baby Keene gets here! None of them come close to knocking you off the Awesome Mom Pedestal that I have you on! :) Besides, when you have "me time" and time to get stuff done, you are better able to give yourself more fully to Caden!
    You rock, and this post just proves that! :)
    Love ya!

  2. okay - so you are SO not a bad mom...if I fessed up and listed all the "guilty" mom things I do, people would probably need to call CPS on me. :-) You are an awesome mommy and Caden just adores you!!!!! Plus...a little me time is great therapy. Speaking of - wanna walk later? Without my boys??? "

  3. None of the things you posted here even come close to qualifying you for bad mom status. Every mom I know has done all of those things at one time or another. And, taking time for yourself should not make you feel guilty. It will make you a better mommy because you'll come home refreshed and wanting more Caden time. You're doing great!

  4. Girl, I can amen all of the above and then some. You are a wonderful mommy and it's super important that you take a little time for yourself FOR NO REASON AT ALL. Caden is such a sweet little boy, and I love spending time with him. He is welcome on Morning Glory Lane anytime. Love you.